Summer Fling

Well the relationship I started has come to an end. I decided to put myself into the relationship and try to make it work. But it didn't work out. I guess most girls might be upset over a break up. But I seem to be coping just fine. And really, I'm not mad/sad/jealous at all. I'm just kinda bored now haha.

But I guess that's what summer flings are. Someone to pass the time and have fun during the summer months. Oh and have amazing sex! By far the best time spent with him. ;)

And with fall approaching, I have school, looking for new work and an art show to work on. And that all means getting to meet new people and new guys. Holler!

So if any of you have summer flings coming to an end, don't worry about whether or not they will transition into the fall with you, just chill.

Taking out the Trash

How is it that I have phone numbers from guys I've met on CL, POF or OKC and I have no idea who they are? 

I don't usually do heavy cleaning or monitoring of who's in my phonebook, but I decided to go through the list to get rid of numbers since I am bored at work. And as I'm going through them (Friends….. Family….. Work…… Who's this?!), I really have a hard time remembering some of the people. Honestly, I doubt I even met some of the people in person. But I did text a lot. So if anything, these people were all texting buddies. I figure I better just clean out my phone now. I have my new "person" and I wanna have things stay drama free. In the event that he gets crazy, psycho, jealous, or any other kind of weird, at least I won't have "John Doe CL" or "Mr. Smith OKC" in my phone to spark a fight later on. 

Fool be once....

I'm trying this again. And I've managed to get myself into a relationship. He's fun, creative and makes me laugh.

Let's hope it will last.

Bonjour!

I'll be Paris bound in a few days. I'm looking forward to a vacation, being in Europe and having time to think of my mother. She and I always talked about taking a trip to Paris together ever since I was little. This is probably where my crush for Paris started. And I hope it's all I imagine it to be.

If You're Gonna Play the Game, Know the Rules

I put some pictures up and was my cute, coy alluring self. Needless to say, I received many MANY responses. And I know for guys, you get bots, spammers and whatever else, but rarely an actual girl. So guys were surprised to have a real girl write to them. 

The thing is, if I'm writing you, yea I'm interested and something you have said or shown (AKA you're cute) has enticed me. But be warned, I'm going to google you. I'm going to see if you're a crazy, a weirdo, a murderer, etc. In one instance, I was writing this guy for a few days. He was cute and funny and we got along well. We talked on the phone and there seemed to be chemistry. But we were still both strangers to one another. In the time that I had talked to him and emailed him, I knew:

- His full name

- Where he went to school

- Where he lives

- His dogs name

- Where he works

_ And his very uniquely spelled last name

So when I ended up googling him, I find out he is either married or has a sister he is very close with. How did I find this? It turns out, he doesn't have a Facebook. But when I goggled his name, there was a site that listed all the home buyers and sellers of the particular neighborhood where he lived. So his name plus his wife's name was there as well as the latest buyers of the home. 

So of course I search for her on Facebook. Again, really uncommon and unique last name. And there she is with a picture of him. There's the same state he grew up in. There's the same dog he told me about. 

Dude, if you're going to lie and look for ladies on CL? At least make it less easy to find you online through a few clicks of the mouse. Not that I think cheating is right. I've done it and it kinda ruined things for me emotionally. But if you're going to play the online dating game, know the rules and know that people are going to search for you. It's a given. 

Whether or not you have ill will, just be safe and don't be so transparent to the point where personal information about yourself can be easily displayed for any yahoo (myself included) can look you up. If you're going to do the online dating route:

- Create an email just for chatting/corresponding to potential dates

- Don't give out your last name

- Keep things vague till you know them well enough

These are words of advice from me a long time CL Dater.