Fool be once....

I'm trying this again. And I've managed to get myself into a relationship. He's fun, creative and makes me laugh.

Let's hope it will last.

Bonjour!

I'll be Paris bound in a few days. I'm looking forward to a vacation, being in Europe and having time to think of my mother. She and I always talked about taking a trip to Paris together ever since I was little. This is probably where my crush for Paris started. And I hope it's all I imagine it to be.

If You're Gonna Play the Game, Know the Rules

I put some pictures up and was my cute, coy alluring self. Needless to say, I received many MANY responses. And I know for guys, you get bots, spammers and whatever else, but rarely an actual girl. So guys were surprised to have a real girl write to them. 

The thing is, if I'm writing you, yea I'm interested and something you have said or shown (AKA you're cute) has enticed me. But be warned, I'm going to google you. I'm going to see if you're a crazy, a weirdo, a murderer, etc. In one instance, I was writing this guy for a few days. He was cute and funny and we got along well. We talked on the phone and there seemed to be chemistry. But we were still both strangers to one another. In the time that I had talked to him and emailed him, I knew:

- His full name

- Where he went to school

- Where he lives

- His dogs name

- Where he works

_ And his very uniquely spelled last name

So when I ended up googling him, I find out he is either married or has a sister he is very close with. How did I find this? It turns out, he doesn't have a Facebook. But when I goggled his name, there was a site that listed all the home buyers and sellers of the particular neighborhood where he lived. So his name plus his wife's name was there as well as the latest buyers of the home. 

So of course I search for her on Facebook. Again, really uncommon and unique last name. And there she is with a picture of him. There's the same state he grew up in. There's the same dog he told me about. 

Dude, if you're going to lie and look for ladies on CL? At least make it less easy to find you online through a few clicks of the mouse. Not that I think cheating is right. I've done it and it kinda ruined things for me emotionally. But if you're going to play the online dating game, know the rules and know that people are going to search for you. It's a given. 

Whether or not you have ill will, just be safe and don't be so transparent to the point where personal information about yourself can be easily displayed for any yahoo (myself included) can look you up. If you're going to do the online dating route:

- Create an email just for chatting/corresponding to potential dates

- Don't give out your last name

- Keep things vague till you know them well enough

These are words of advice from me a long time CL Dater. 

A weekend away

I went put of town for the long weekend with some friends including the friend I have been in-like with for sometime. We actually ended up sharing the same bed. But sorry to disappoint, but nothing happened.

We pretty much laughed and giggled in bed like two friends and whispered throughout the night. Not much sexual tension there at all. But I did come the realization that nothing should happen. He's a good friend who won't judge or make me feel bad and I need to get over him.

And in all honesty, I don't think I can be with him in the sexual sense anymore. I thought sharing a bed with him, I'd be sad and lonely. But I really wasn't. I was more interested in sleeping than wanting to jump him. So I'm assuming my lack of sexual desires with him is a sign.

A sign that I need someone who I can be myself around as a friend and a lover. But it seems as though I only get one or the other.

When was the last time....

You had phone sex? If not, you really should.

That is all.